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Mindfully Consensual

Part of the reason I’m still away is because I have to figure out how to promote more sensitive conversations to be held in my chats. 

When a large amount of women in our industry started coming forward about the abuse and harassment that’s been happening without any sort of accountability for years and saw some of these men who’s had to face some tough responsibility, it just made me think about how I was complicit for all these years by keeping silent to what I should have not been expecting as normal.  

You see, I’ve lost many guy friends because of the strong feelings they develop for me. I have always hoped that I could just be a guys friend and it not have to lead to a sexual relationship for it to last but I can never tell until its been years into our friendship, if it was their intention all along. I rarely get an explanation or held accountable for anything I have done to encourage a sexually charged mindset. 

I heard that we aren’t responsible for how we make people feel which was new to me, but I tried to embrace it. I started wearing things that I liked and testing the mindset that I’m not just for sexual pleasure, like I can embrace my beauty and appreciate it while its here and its cool but I could never convince myself that I wasn’t just putting myself out to be enticed after.  

Then I started hearing that a lot of women are making some very life altering choices out of a perceived obligation and with dudes being encouraged to objectify and manipulate just to get a date, it seems like a problem for Neon Girl tbh 

I reached out to some streamers privately and there seems to be a clear understanding where the fault lies but still nothing about how to fix it. 

I decided, Im just going to take on some different habits and see if I can’t encourage a new mindset that leads to more encouraging results.

 I want to be focus on being consensual and helpful to the promotion of healthy and enduring relationships. I’m going to hold people accountable and help affirm the identities of everyone who puts their trust in us. 

I need to learn how to respond differently and not impulsively insensitive. I need to set some ground rules to help guide the focus on the appreciation for listening and communicate that with our mods.

 I need to make these changes because it is important that I help and not hurt the fight for equality and freedom. 

-No objectifying jokes 

I want to encourage platonic relationships that have respectful boundaries

Our focus is on equality, treating each other as people and not sexual objects. 

I notice stuff I laugh off now and think its harmless in the moment but it’s contributing to the frustrations of consensual relationships. 

As for my content, 

 I want the ear eating to be the performance, no interaction and all focus.  

I’m focusing my efforts on foreplay, appreciation for the other person and their boundaries. Promoting a deeper respect and commitment of trust to gain more passionately fulfilling habits. 

Setting the mood:

 Sub only mode when its ear eating time, so that you can decide if it something you want to do that requires a commitment. I dont want money to be involved with prolonging it or making it happen. 

I need to figure out the sub, bitty, and donation goals. 

Maybe I can have smooth pick up lines with different bitty amounts 

        a goal to make a lasting impression where I take a highlight of the night and put it on the rerun wheel.  

I can have the donation goal be like my hunger gauge. If I’m hungry I definitely not in the mood lol we can be funny with it too maybe. 

Would be funny to have a little animation go off over my head when I am in the mood to eat some ears lol. like a sims character

I think it would be cool if we encouraged bed room talk that is appropriate and not like demeaning and uncomfortable at that time too. 

 I would like to have a Patreon stream in Discord before I go live. Where I can be candid me while I get ready. 

These are all the things I have to work out in my head before I can set my auto pilot on. What do you think?

Mindfully yours, 

Missy