Posted in Fan Mail

Private words from a survivor

 “I am a sexual assult survivor..from many different times. My fiance and I have been together on and off for about 10 years. We havent seen sexually intimate in months. And that is completely okay because we can express our love other ways that dont make me feel uncomfortable or scared. Communication is key. Patience its keys. Self love is key. Healing and love is by far key. These are my thoughts. I am always here to talk if you want” 

My Response

I’m sorry to hear about that. It affected me differently. From an early age I’ve been very aware about sex and its shaped the respect I’ve had for men. I wasn’t close to many women and I only felt safe around men cause I knew it was easy to make them happy. I wasn’t promiscuous but sex was very much a focus in all my relationships. I was committed but I had no idea my mindset was unhealthy. I thought I just dealt with my past. Seeing all these stories come out about the sexual abuse in the industry where we work, I feel compelled to offer a solution to heal. I want to encourage healthy sex that is very passionate and considerate of the other person. Ya know like focusing on becoming comfortable with foreplay and just help encourage sensuality to be a confident and enjoyable freedom.

Thoughts

Sounds like we both have some healing to do and I’m hoping that it is possible. I’m already hopeful seeing a message like this from someone I barely know at all.